At first glance this would seem to be a simple question, most just want a sexual release but after reading a forum aimed at customers this turned out only to be partially true. Many expect a cam girl to be a friend, cyber-lover, girlfriend, therapist, confidant, sex object and often more besides.

After reading one forum for customers it would seem the perfect cam-girl is attractive, compliant, docile, intelligent, attentive, sexually available, never asks a customer to go private, completely honest with them, submissive, dominant, kinky, the shy girl next door, has cheap or non-existent prices, essentially everything to everyone. Another way to put it completely selfless and customer centered giving freely of herself to every needy and lonely man that happens to find her chat room. Obviously this isn’t possible because most of us need the money to live on and it is unreasonable of the customer to expect you to work for next to nothing. The rest you should try to fake.

On one forum for customers a man was complaining about hosts requesting private sessions when he “selflessly gave hours each day to chat with the hosts.” Basically this man wanted models to be his friend. To me this sounded very strange at first because I would never go to a paysite looking to make a friend, anymore than I would use a dating site to make a platonic friend. Up until I read that forum when I got clients that told me that they never pay I thought they just wanted me to berate them because they enjoyed that kind of thing. I still avoid communicating with the free loaders, because I am a cam girl solely to make money. Some cam girls can get money from this kind of client but they have to give out their name or address to receive the money and I could never trust anyone I met online with my details.

Some guys are looking for a g/f:

Some times this kind of customer is actually looking for a girlfriend. They will ask you whether you are single, like many other time wasters do,

These guys consider themselves to be the camgirls friend and that their presence in your room for 12 hours in a row is better than 2 minutes in private. Some girls may like someone to talk to but remember that if you give this customer more attention that the others then it will be noticed and the others will be less likely to pay. Some times they claim to be looking for “inner beauty,” which basically means that you must be happy to talk to them for free and have an interest in them as a person. The last time I had one of these I found it more irritating that anything. The moment I signed in he would show up and then he would stay in my room until I logged off. He expected constant free chat throughout that period but of course, I didn’t have a lot to talk about with him. Eventually I stopped doing free chat on that site.

I once had a client who was totally infatuated with me, he told me that he loved me constantly and gave me huge tips which he couldn’t really afford. It is difficult to decide what to do in this situation. I had a friend who had been in a similar situation with a client and when you she told him that she didn’t feel the same way he became aggressive and was rude to her in her chat room and believed that she had led him along. Flirting is part of the job and unfortunately he believed that she wanted him, instead of wanting him to pay for a show. I decided to leave the site for a while because he was putting off all my other customers and I was earning less money. Ignoring them isn’t a very good idea though because they will become worried, often not so much that you have deserted them but that you have been hurt. Leading them on may well be good for your bank account but what if they find out and you have given them your address? It is best to try to avoid this situation if possible.

Many customers want the models compliance. They want to tell someone what to do sexually and have it done, without complaint or hesitation.

Sometimes a customer wants to feel accepted, this is more common when their fantasy deviates from the normal. I have found this kind of customer more common on the chat lines than on web cam. I was working with a company that permitted rape fantasy and I had a man tell me he fantasised about this. He was obviously deeply troubled by this and wanted some reassurance. He asked me if I fantasised about making people do things agaist their will and I said “no,” and he hung up. The company informed me that I should have said yes. Obviously, that would have been easier to do had his fantasy not been so taboo and that I thought I may be encouraging him to actually rape someone if I answered in the affirmative. Usually it is far more innocuous than that, the majority of the “acceptance calls” being from cross-dressers. Pretend to share their fantasy, as long as it is permitted with the company you are working for. Be sympathetic to them and at least pretend to understand because they often have to work up to admitting to someone what they are. In some respects cam girls and phone sex operators are therapists.